I’m going to be sixty this year, and that’s a big one in my family, because quite a few people didn’t make it. So that’s leaving me thoughtful about my past, present, and indeed future. After dithering for years about… Read More »Don’t lose the beautiful tart that is you!
I was going to write a tongue-in-cheek blog about ‘competitive grave visiting’ within a family that someone once told me about. And I will do that. But today is the anniversary of my dad’s death, so instead I’m going to… Read More »Letting grief take the reins
What happens after a death in the family when the remaining family members are conflicted ?
Try with all your might – you can’t predict or control grief. You can only allow space for it to do what it needs to do
‘Today, I’m going to make someone cry’ When Cathy and I were friends at university in the late 80s, she was studying Law, I was doing English. Now, 35 odd years later – we are both working, in different ways,… Read More »Interview with a palliative care OT
Wilfred Bion, psychotherapist and tank commander, believed that anger is a much easier emotion to access than sadness.
Meet the remarkable Felix Hewison-Carter. She’s funny, multi-talented, smart, wry and gloriously dark.
Sarah Playforth talks about the grief of loss – of people she loved, of her hearing at a young age – and becoming the matriarch of the family
I’ve got a sticky conundrum at the moment and it’s absorbing a lot of mental energy, trying to decide what to do. I am lucky to have very fine friends. But they have a great deal going on in their… Read More »Advice from the living. Or dead
What do you say to someone who has lost someone dear to them? I have no ‘right’ answer to this. But I know from experience that the loss of a loved one is 1) really bloody hard 2) really bloody… Read More »When you’ve lost someone